We need to live your life on our own terms and on our own timeline. How do we do that in a world that tells us the opposite most times.

There are still others that think the self-care culture is shallow. And we find ourselves exhausted yet feeling guilty for taking real care of ourselves. No no no. just no!

As the world goes to hell in a hand basket (at least it feels that way at times), it is essential, now more than ever, to establish and reevaluate your boundaries and priorities. Let go of how you think you are supposed to be or feel, and embrace who you are now. This goes for so many subjects. Ones that are on the table big time in the US. But Im not going to talk about that right now.

I want to focus on talking to you about taking care of yourself and helping you to reframe the idea that its selfish and that you feel the need to apologize for taking care of you.

Let me make something clear. I have said this before and I will say it again……..

Taking basic care of yourself is not a luxury; it’s a must. What we brand as glorious, luxurious self-care and almost a rebellious act are the most crucial building blocks of a balanced life.

And who said that a daily meditation practice, the occasional bubble baths and massages count as radical self-care?

Oh, I know, all the beliefs, habits and stories that we have told ourselves through the years. Societal pressures telling us to do this and that and we have to grind ourselves to the bone and work ridiculous hours, constantly. Heavens no way can we take time for ourselves.

You and I and everyone else needs their 7–9 hours of sleep. Making sleep a priority should not be thought of as a luxury. Nor exercise and quiet reflection time. These are the foundation on which you can build your self-care practice.

And it is crucial to remember that saying NO can be the ultimate self-care.

So the next time someone says to you “You are a Mother you can’t take time for yourself, thats selfish” or “Why are you always doing things for yourself first?” or  “Can’t you be more considerate for others and not yourself all the time?” 

Whatever others say remember first off, it’s a reflection of them and they think if they can’t do it no one should be allowed to do it and second…… screw them.

Seriously, F*CK that.

DO NOT EVER apologize or back down from taking care of you and or even your basic needs.

Self care is never selfish. It’s self preservation.

So what are you going to do?  Take care of your self, thats what you’re going to do.